Простой сложный разговор. Модель легкого и эффективного общения - Элисон Вуд Брукс
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Ira Glass, “House on Loon Lake,” This American Life, November 16, 2001.
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Другие эпизоды этого подкаста тоже могут послужить источником нешаблонных вступлений для беседы. В эпизоде «Картография» говорили о людях, которые составляют карты по необычным ориентирам, например трещинам на городском тротуаре или домам голливудских звезд. Майк спрашивает собеседника: «Что бы вы хотели нанести на карту?» или «Что, если бы мы наносили на карту запахи вместо названий улиц?». Такой вопрос однажды привел к разговору о том, как его коллеги относятся к разным цветам и как друзья его жены воспринимают реальность.
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Kardas, Kumar, and Epley, “Overly Shallow?”; Yeomans and Brooks, “Topic Preference Detection in Conversation.”
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James Parker, “An Ode to Small Talk,” Atlantic, October 2020.
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Kardas, Kumar, and Epley, “Overly Shallow?”
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Cooney et al., “Switching Topics More Frequently.”
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Как мы увидим в главе 4, посвященной легкости беседы, основание пирамиды тоже может приносить удовольствие. Успех любой темы зависит от вложенных в нее эмоций. Смысл жизни вполне может стать темой для small talk, если обсудить его в общих словах, не вдаваясь в подробности, а разговор о холодных оладьях способен превратиться в особенную, значимую дискуссию, если добавить в него искру.
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Diana I. Tamir and Jason P. Mitchell, “Disclosing Information About the Self Is Intrinsically Rewarding,” Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences 109, no. 21 (2012): 8038–43.
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Michael Yeomans, “A Concrete Example of Construct Construction in Natural Language,” Organizational Behavior and Human Decision Processes 162 (2021): 81–94.
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Maya Rossignac-Milon et al., “Merged Minds: Generalized Shared Reality in Dyadic Relationships,” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 120, no. 4 (2021): 882.
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Michael L. Slepian and Katharine H. Green-away, “The Benefits and Burdens of Keeping Others’ Secrets,” Journal of Experimental Social Psychology 78 (2018): 220–32; Michael L. Slepian and Edythe Moulton-Tetlock, “Confiding Secrets and Well-Being,” Social Psychological and Personality Science 10, no. 4 (2019): 472–84; Michael L. Slepian and James N. Kirby, “To Whom Do We Confide Our Secrets?” Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin 44, no. 7 (2018): 1008–23; Leslie John, Michael L. Slepian, and Diana Tamir, “Tales of Two Motives: Disclosure and Concealment,” Current Opinion in Psychology 31 (2020).
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Alison Wood Brooks et al., “Mitigating Malicious Envy: Why Successful Individuals Should Reveal Their Failures,” Journal of Experimental Psychology: General 148, no. 4 (2019): 667; Annabelle R. Roberts, Emma E. Levine, and Ovul Sezer, “Hiding Success,” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 120, no. 5 (2021): 1261.
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Emma M. Templeton et al., “Long Gaps Between Turns Are Awkward for Strangers But Not for Friends,” Philosophical Transactions of the Royal Society B 378, no. 1875 (2023); Stav Atir, Kristina A. Wald, and Nicholas Epley, “Talking with Strangers Is Surprisingly Informative,” Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences 119, no. 34 (2022): e2206992119.
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Abi-Esber et al., “Power of Preparation.”
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Hanne K. Collins and Alison Wood Brooks, “Call-backs in Conversation” (в работе).
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Grant Packard, Yang Li, and Jonah Berger, “When Language Matters,” Journal of Consumer Research (2023): ucad080.
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Dennis Kurzon, “Towards a Typology of Silence,” Journal of Pragmatics 39, no. 10 (2007): 1673–88; Emma M. Templeton et al., “Fast Response Times Signal Social Connection in Conversation,” Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences 119, no. 4 (2022): e2116915119.
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Cooney et al., “Switching Topics More Frequently.”
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Yeomans and Brooks, “Topic Preference Detection in Conversation.”
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Yeomans and Brooks, “Topic Preference Detection in Conversation.”
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Janet B. Bavelas, Linda Coates, and Trudy Johnson, “Listeners as Co-Narrators,” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 79, no. 6 (2000): 941; Hanne K. Collins, “When Listening Is Spoken,” Current Opinion in Psychology 47 (2022).
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Какой конфуз, правда? (фр.) Прим. пер.
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Levi, Reawakening, 45.
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Бывший генеральный директор компании Theranos, осужденная за мошенничество. Прим. пер.
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Dave Itzkoff, “Carrie Fisher, Child of Hollywood and ‘Star Wars’ Royalty, Dies at 60,” New York Times, December 27, 2016; Carrie Fisher and Rob Delaney, Carrie Fisher: The Memoirs (New York: Simon & Schuster, 2018).
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Carrie Fisher, Postcards from the Edge (New York; Simon & Schuster, 2008).
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Carrie Fisher, Postcards from the Edge screenplay (1988).
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Carrie Fisher, Surrender the Pink (New York: Simon & Schuster, 1990).
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“Actress and Author Carrie Fisher,” Fresh Air, NPR, February 21, 1997.
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“Actress and Novelist Carrie Fisher,” Fresh Air, NPR, February 4, 2004.
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“Carrie Fisher Opens Up About ‘Star Wars,’ The Gold Bikini and Her On-Set Affair,” Fresh Air, NPR, Novemer 28, 2016.
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Terry Gross, All I Did Was Ask: Conversations with Writers, Actors, Musicians, and Artists (New York: Hachette, 2004).
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Matteo Di Stasi, Alison Wood Brooks, and Jordi Quoidbach, “Asking Open-Ended Questions Increases Personal Gains in Negotiations” (в работе); Karen Huang et al., “It Doesn’t Hurt to Ask: Question-Asking Increases
